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From The Bridge Across Forever by Richard Bach

A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.

What is Love by Unknown

Sooner or later we begin to understand that love is more than verses on valentines and romance in the movies. We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true, the most important thing in our lives. For love is the creator of our favorite memories and the foundation of our fondest dreams. Love is a promise that is always kept, a fortune that can never be spent, a seed that can flourish in even the most unlikely of places. And this radiance that never fades, this mysterious and magical joy, is the greatest treasure of all – one known only by those who love.

USC Wedding

Recently did a ceremony at University of Southern California, right outside of the Town & Gown building.  Very nice place for an outdoor ceremony.  Patio is well shaded by surrounding trees and greenery. There is plenty of room for guest seating and vendors, i.e., musicians area, officiant’s area, etc.

I had driven by USC for years and had never visited the campus.  I was impressed by how beautiful the campus was with its gardens, and brick structures.  I do like to do weddings on university grounds, being that I was a college student myself for quite a few years, I very much like being in an academic environment.

Contact Information                                                                                              

Wedding minister Joseph’s contact info: (213)986-8214, (818)844-6792. joseph@amorperfectunionglendale.com 100 N. Brand Blvd. Glendale, Ca. 91203

From the movie the Wedding Singer, sung by Adam Sandler:                                         I wanna grow old with you. 
I wanna make you smile whenever you’re sad, carry you around when your arthritis is bad. 
All I wanna do, is grow old with you. I’ll get you medicine when your tummy aches, build you a fire if the furnace breaks, So it could be so nice growing old with you, …. I’ll miss you, kiss you, give you my coat when you are cold, need you, feed you, even let you hold the remote control. So let me do the dishes in our kitchen sink, put you to bed when you’ve had too much to drink, oh I could be the man that grows old with you, I wanna grow old with you.

Now a days:

a lot of wedding ceremonies are taking place in homes, country clubs, parks, beaches, banquet halls, museums, restaurants, etc.; these types of ceremonies are less rigid and can allow for more customization  Weddings can be bilingual, Inter-faith, and combine rituals and readings of more than one faith/culture. And sometimes readings or lines from a popular movie; for example – The lines in the song sung by Adam Sandler (I want to grow old with you) in the movie Wedding Singer.

The physical structure, and script structure of an outside wedding ceremony can be more informal – no wedding party, uneven wedding party, more than one bestman and maid of honor, ceremony elements in different order.  As an example of this point, a previous couple wanted their ring exchange at the end of the ceremony, I believe they felt this was an important part of the ceremony and wanted to save it till almost the end, why not, if it is a legal marriage, the order or content dosen’t matter.

Heritage Square Museum                                                                                                    

I recently performed a wedding ceremony on these grounds.  I was impressed by how well maintained these buildings and the grounds were.  They have houses/structures dating back to the late 1800’s; restored to their heyday times, nice to look at with their detailed architecture of their time period.  You have a surreal sense as you walk through the gates; the urban residential community around the museum grounds has changed and modernized, but it looks like the museum grounds and structures have stayed the same authentic and presteen to their time period.  It’s a nice and interesting place for a ceremony, and they have plenty of parking.  http://heritagesquare.org

Good Wedding Book

512DEF22M2L._SX430_BO1,204,203,200_  I read this book a few years ago, and found it very informative and easy to read.  There is a lot of good advice in this book, such as dealing with wedding vendors, planning the wedding, etc.,  It looks like there up to the 5th edition now, they have made some upgrades, such as talking about social media before, during, and after the ceremony., etc., etc.

I recommend “The Everything Wedding Book” to couples to familiarize them with the wedding process from begining to end. Also to help them organize the wedding process, and inform couples on what to look for and ask for when doing business with vendors.

Ceremony Words                                                                                                    

Wedding ceremony wording in the U.S. has adapted to reflect the change in times.  For example, Catholic wedding vows, the dioceses of the United States, says the following form may be used:

“I, (Name), take you, (Name), for my lawful wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part” (Internet source).  In these vows, there is no mention of the words “honor and obey” which were used more in vows before the civil rights movement.

Ceremony wording today (post civil rights movement 1969) has changed to reflect the changes in our society.  “To honor and obey” spoken by the brides of the past, these words are seldom used now because of more egalitarianism, and a need for equality bettween today’s couples.  As an officiant, I do not introduce these words into couple’s scripts,

Same sex marriages have been legal in California since June 28, 2013.  Words like “spouse”, wedded spouse, are used instead of husband and wife, this change reflects the change in legislation and in the times, creating a need for appropriate wording when conducting same sex ceremonies.

In conclusion, traditional wedding wording in vows, and in reference to couples, has adapted to the changes caused by the times, these being the successes of the civil rights movement, and the same sex marriage movement, known as LGBT – Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transexual.

Ceremony tip # 1                                                                                                        

Runner on grass, at center isle. Myself, I think flower girls dropping pedals on grass is a better alternative. It is hard enough to walk on grass with heels, the runner makes it more difficult, and if it is windy the runner can move or bunch up making walking in and out of the ceremony area even harder to navigate not to mention the person or persons you will need to enlist to center and straighten it out.

My favorite wedding blessing in English and Spanish. (Apache Wedding Blessing)                                                                                                                         

Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be a shelter for the other.  Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other.  Now there will be no loneliness, for each of you will be a companion to the other.  Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before you.  Go now to your dwelling place to enter the days of your togetherness.  May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead and through all the years.  May happiness be your companion, and may your days together be good and long upon the earth.

Ahora usted se sentirá sin lluvia, porque cada uno de ustedes será refugio para el otro. Ahora usted no sentirá frío, porque cada uno de ustedes será el calor para el otro. Ahora no hay más soledad para ti, porque cada uno de ustedes será el compañero del otro. Ahora son dos cuerpos, pero sólo hay una vida antes de ti. Vaya ahora a su lugar de vivienda, para entrar en los días de su unión. Y que tus días sean buenos y largos sobre la tierra.

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